Meeting and attracting a much younger guy (someone a decade or more younger) when you are in your late 40s or early 50s can be flattering. Your friends may find it amazing and may push you to go for it but it can be really disturbing in reality. Dating a man 10 years younger brings a different high and excitement but it comes with some challenges too. May-December romance has its pros and cons.
Younger men most likely listen and take your advice. Being older, you are perceived as the more experienced, mature and well-rounded person so your younger man tend to listen more and accept your advice. Younger men find it easier to talk to older women about anything. They believe that older women are more adept and can handle multiple responsibilities like career, relationships, children and finances which makes them reliable to listen to. Younger men are willing to listen and learn. Dating a man 10 years younger can be refreshing because it is nice to have someone who appreciates your value.
Dating a man 10 years younger can make you feel young. Younger men can definitely make older women feel prettier, more attractive and young. Younger men are more energetic, full of life and adventurous. There are older women who says that they became more energetic and adventurous being with younger guys.
Sexual compatibility. Most young men prefer having sex with older women because they have more experience and sure of what they want. If women and men hit their sexual primes at different age, younger men are more likely sexually compatible with much older women. Middle aged or older women tend to have higher sex drive which corresponds to the stamina and high sex drive of younger men. Sex can be better when dating a man 10 years younger.
You don’t have to worry about his baggage. Younger men usually haven’t had much heartaches so they carry less emotional baggage. You also don’t have to deal with previous marriages or kids because a younger man is more likely very single and never been married.
Younger men lacks experience. While you already have a solid career and financially stable, a younger man is still sorting out his life path and doesn’t have much life experience, doesn’t have a stable career and not yet financially stable. It can be a good thing at first with all the excitement and romance but once reality sets in, you’ll realize as time went on that dating a man 10 years younger can be really challenging. It can be tiring to be the wise grown-up and be his lover, his aunt, his mother, his mentor and his teacher.
Relationship with a younger man may not be for keeps. Younger guys can be immature and not ready for something serious. Commitment can be an issue for younger men as they are not into something serious yet. Younger men may not be ready to settle down because he is still young, immature and want to explore many things first while older women are very much ready to settle down. They may also have immature friends that you have to deal with.
Difference in lifestyle. You were already in college while he was in grade school. You may not understand his lifestyle and he may not understand yours as you both grew up in different decades. The difference can be exciting at first but you may not see each other eye-to-eye eventually as you do not share the same things and experiences growing up.
You’ll be regarded as a cougar and get teased often. No relationship is easy but dating a man 10 years younger is more difficult when you are being teased and called names. While men can enjoy May-December romances, society is not that generous with older women involved with much younger men. Although the perception about older women dating younger men is now slowly changing, there is still a social stigma that society still perceived older women as predator of younger men. They can be really cruel calling you names. People may make fun of you and viewed you as desperate for dating a man 10 years younger. His family can be indifferent to you too and may not accept you gladly.
You cannot defy nature. Changes in physical appearance can be more obvious as years go by. You cannot escape the natural aging process and older women naturally become wrinkled first when your younger man still looks very youthful. You may feel insecure with your aging appearance. But even if you look younger than your age, you cannot defy nature and undo your biological clock. You cannot escape the fact that you are older. If you are an older woman and past the childbearing age and dating a man 10 years younger, getting pregnant or having kids may not be easy or even possible. There is this fertility issue to consider when dating a much younger man because he may want to have his own kids in the future.
Although there are couples who later realized that the huge age gap is taking its toll on their relationship and the challenges are too much to handle affecting their relationship, there are couples who were able to conquer the age gap and make the relationship work despite the huge age gap. In the end, the decision is yours. We are free to follow our hearts and love whoever we want. And as long as we can make the relationship work, age is just a number.